I always wanted my blog to be something more than an ordinary fashion blog. I want to really inspire people and help them grow, and maybe one day share my journey. But for now, it's not really possible since I don't have enough time to devote to writing. Luckily, I have great guests such as Tracey Clayton, who's willing to share some words of advice with you, this time on how to be cool and confident:
Ok, since you’ve already browsed the internet hoping to find tutorials that will help you become cool and confident, it’s clear you need to do some soul searching which will help you understand you are all that but you simply don’t know it yet!
The socially accepted and preferred modules of behavior considered “cool” and “confident” support various (fashion) movements, all depending on the current celebrity climate and trend endorsements. This is why you need to work on building your own style that’ll be timeless, and that will make you feel good regardless of the popular buzz.
What do I do to get in a place where I am okay with who I am?
It may sound a bit corny but, once you become comfortable with who you are, only good things will come your way. The way we feel about ourselves is the energy we send onto the world and it’s ultimately the way people feel (about) us.
Figuring out who you are is a never-ending journey but setting basis of your personality is the key. Think about what you inherently like, dislike, what feels good, what doesn’t… Think about a person you want to become, what you’d want your life to turn into and work towards achieving it. We are all easy to fall under other people’s influences and waste years thinking we are enjoying something when, actually, we are personally so far from it.
For instance, you’ve got a friend who is popular and, to make him like you, you pretend you like all the same things they do. However, once you realize you can have your own voice and love what you love without having to apologize for it to anyone. You’ll quickly become confident and break loose of all the meaningless relationships around you, consequently finding people that are actually your match. And, most importantly – you’ll be at peace with yourself.
What’s the trick to keep things cool?
There’s nothing cooler than being comfortable in your own skin or working towards becoming the person you want to be. Your personality and tastes are an entire universe of possibilities, so explore them! Build your fashion sense, your music preferences, your science interests, your movie likes – everything! You’ll quickly get in a place where you can say “I know who I am, therefore – I am cool”.
What never hurts is to find that one piece of accessorize/interest that will single you out from the rest. Whether those are the amazing pair of Dragon sunglasses that support your newfound
edgy style, wearing that orient-inspired leather choker or doing yoga in the park every morning at 5AM – it’s entirely up to you.
What if nobody accepts me for who I am?
Oh, darling – fright not! The worst case scenario is that you won’t be spending time with the “popular crowd” but that doesn’t mean you are worse than them; it only means you’ve found your inner voice that challenges the mundane and rises beyond the known and usual. In time, you will learn that all of your traits will be celebrated by people who actually understand, love and support them. And until that happens – stay your amazing self, keep working on figuring out your persona and love the beautiful journey ahead of you.
Is there a formula to staying confident and cool forever?
Yes, absolutely. The formula is loving yourself for everything that you are. Simple as that. Fact is – we are all more critical towards ourselves than others are and we tend to put ourselves down for no apparent reason. Rise above that and learn to be the person you’d want to be hanging with. Channel your thoughts and, until you finally believe it – keep repeating this to yourself – you are amazing, you are beautiful, you are worthy.
Tracey Clayton is a full time mom of three girls. She feels she knows a thing or two about raising happy, healthy and confident kids, and offers helpful advice in hers parenting articles. She’s also passionate about travelling, fashion and healthy living. Her motto is: “Live the life you love, love the life you live.” Find her on Facebook.